Seasons of Love & Other Family Matters

Day two of getting adjusted by the Chiropractor….and so far so good.  My x-rays and results came back and it seems that while your spine at your neck is supposed to have a bit of a curve mine was nearly straight….which was putting pressure on several nerves in my neck while restricting blood flow.  So once again (fingers crossed) bye bye eye pain, headaches, and general health issues.

There is a supernal intelligence behind sexual arousal, the true purpose of which is to create for us ecstatic experiences of our own divinity.”
― John Maxwell Taylor, Eros Ascending: The Life-Transforming Power of Sacred Sexuality

Used as rocket fuel, sex energy can lift our consciousness to the stars to experience a state of being where love exists in and for itself and has no opposite. On a soul level, this is our natural state.”
― John Maxwell Taylor, Eros Ascending: The Life-Transforming Power of Sacred Sexuality

For those of you thinking this is all about sex….well it isn’t. The point is that many of us think of love and equate it with sex and intimacy…but as we started talking about last time…love is far more than that.

Let’s look at one of the most quoted lines from the best known charge of the Goddess is “All acts of love and pleasure are my rituals.”

There are many ways to show love that aren’t sexual at all and many of which we should engage in more.  Let’s take look….and for those of you who were hoping this was all about sacred sexuality….I promise….we’ll get there….I’m not sure when…but I am working on the post already.

Love In Actions

Love is more than just relationships. It is more than sex. As we discussed last time, love is a major part of this path. Or at least I have learned it to be so through my own experiences and through Teaching Witchcraft.

It’s a multifaceted beast. It’s more than affection for others. It is shown through our thoughts, actions, words. It can also be disproven by these as our actions and deeds speak volumes above our words. It’s a part of our dreams and desires. Following your Wyrd and fulfilling your dreams is an act of love towards yourself.

We’ve all heard that there are many different types of love. You can love the satisfaction your work brings you. You love your child in a different way from your significant other. A teacher loves the impact they have on their students. And those children learn from our example and the examples of those who are authority figures in their lives.

Children who grow up in loving compassionate homes or who are encouraged by loving compassionate people become that. And those who are raised in bigotry and hate can just as easily become that. Hence why I mentioned those who are encouraged by loving and compassionate people outside of their home.

Random acts of Love.

Most of us have heard the phrase “Practice random acts of kindness and senseless acts of beauty.” And it is a wonderful sentiment. What if we all took a moment to help their neighbors move in or to stop traffic to let ducklings or children cross the street. How wonderful are those stories when we hear about them? Shouldn’t they make us surge with pride in mankind?

Random acts of kindness are their own kind of love. A form that is lost on many people. It isn’t all their fault. It isn’t that they don’t love, it’s what society has become. We distrust others. Even I find myself guilty of it. We often wonder if people who do nice things have other or even malicious intent. This is something that we all need to relearn.

I’m not saying give up your lifes savings to help out a girl in need, but giving a waitress a good tip when you can tell she’s having a bad day is a start. Or when you see an old lady struggling with the door, open it for her. You can make someone else’s day even if it seems insignificant.

Raising A Wiccan Family

No I’m not giving you a guide book here. Just covering the basics and celebrating the fact that we live in the 20th century, a time when it’s perfectly fine to openly raise our children in our faith. It’s a nearly unprecedented freedom that we enjoy here and not one to be taken lightly as there are still places in the world where being a witch is a crime. (http://www.talk2action.org/story/2010/9/21/223455/252)

So how do we even start? What do we need to watch out for? These are questions I’m just starting to ask and answer as a new pagan parent. I thought I’d have more time to ponder the intricacies….until I realized I wouldn’t know what I was facing until I was there.

The first thing that I read in nearly every pagan parenting resource is that we have to teach our children about the biases we face. We also have to teach them tact and decorum. If you know you’re going to be going to skyclad rituals, they have to understand why they don’t need to blurt that out at school or to other people who may not understand what we’re all about. You can even tie into a lesson about To Know, To Dare, To Will, and To Be Silent.

Another part of this may be include being more accepting of different aspects of life. One of these aspects may include imaginary friends. Who knows, there are those who believe that imaginary friends could be fairies or elves only showing themselves to the innocent as some of the lore indicates. No matter your feelings on this, it’s just a thought. Or from a physical standpoint if we teach that there is no bad questions, our children might learn to be more inquisitive.

From my own childhood I remember my parents teaching me that there was nothing dirty about sex. They may not have gotten nitty gritty with the details, but I was raised to understand that it was intended to be a beautiful thing between two people who cared for each other. I never thought that sex was dirty or inherently bad like many schools seem to indicate today. It only had shame and fear associated with it after my education in our wonderful public school system.
Once again only thoughts and ideas. What works for one family isn’t going to work for another. That’s just how it is. We all have different ideas and that isn’t a bad thing.

Finally, we have to be flexible. If we inflict our faith upon our children as rigid dogma, we push them away. It’s important to let our children explore other religions once they reach an age where they can understand the importance of religion and philosophy. We can’t prevent them from doing it either or we harm them. I feel like this should be a duh moment, but you’d be surprised.

The best advice I can give is to just raise our children in love and peace. To teach them the ethics and to make sure that they have a firm grasp of the intricacies of our path. If it is for them, then we’ll be there to teach them more. If our path isn’t theirs, then we can be there to support them in their decision.

I’ll end with this thought from Miles Betty:

Here’s a piece of advice for every parent: “When you hold your child and touch their little hands and feel their tiny spirit, look into their eyes. Remind yourself that you are holding a tiny little god, who has within him the promise of all the world, and all the infinite tomorrows.

Blessed Be

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